Wednesday, June 25, 2008
I'm Not Pregnant, Just Fat!
As many of you are aware, Hutch and I have been trying to get pregnant for the past year to no avail. We're trying to be patient and we know the Lord will bless us with a child when he is ready to. But it doesn't help when people keep asking if I am pregnant. It happened again yesterday. Someone I work with from another company was talking to me and said he asked the girls I work with if I was pregnant. I told him I wasn't. What is wrong with people these days!!??!! You NEVER ask a girl if she is pregnant. Even if it's obvious, she could just carry her fat in her stomache, case in point. I've had people asking me if I'm pregnant since I was 18 years old. I was in Pirates of Penzance at Hale when I was 18. One of the girls in the cast was pregnant and put it in her bio. I had soooo many people congratulate me on my pregnancy. My poor sister, who is smaller then I am, was asked if she was pregnant yesterday too. She was at Harmons with her 6 year old and 2 year old twins. The twins are really good at being 2 and were demonstrating it in the middle of the store. So my sister was already having a hard time, when the lady at the register asked if she was having a boy or a girl. She almost cried. But she turned to the lady and said, "I'm not pregnant, just fat." And the embarressed cashier continued without saying anything. Kudos to my sis!! Some might say that my sister was rude but I don't care. It was ruder to point out her weight. This problem with people thinking I'm pregnant is one reason I don't like going to my parents ward. I went and sang at my parents ward just after I got married and a lady in their ward came up to me and said "I asked your mom if you were pregnant because your face is so round now. She said that you weren't". WHY ARE YOU TELLING ME THIS! So please world, please please please don't assume someone is pregnant. If you think they might be, ask someone close to that person but not in ear shot of the person in question. OR even better, wait for that person to make an announcement. AND, don't ever ask a pregnant person if they are having twins. Chances are, they aren't. Jumping off of soapbox now.
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Ack! Lousy stupid people with their thoughtless questions. I'm so sorry, darling Candice!
I'm so sorry, too! That's my least favorite...
I know I should be feeling bad for you, and I do, but I just laughed and laughed at the story of Bec in the store. Good for her. You know what makes people feel bad? When you respond: "No I just lost the baby, I am on my way for a DNC now. But thanks for bringing that up!" Then a quick inhale... and walk off. Not that I have ever done this... oh wait... I probably have!
Amen Sista....Oh, and I liked Steph's miscarriage response - they would teach 'em.
Okay...slightly personal moment here....
We'd planned to be on at least our 3rd child by now. Like you said, the Lord has His own plans.
I did have have an experience last September much like Steph was talking about though. Mine, however, was for real. I had just spent literally all night on the toilet miscarrying and went to my bro-in-law's mission farewell the next morning. I had some lady in their ward come up to me and start asking me about my husband's other siblings and thier kids. When she found out one had 2 kids and the other had the 2nd on the way she looks at me and says, "Well, when are you guys going to have another one?"
I honestly don't remember what I said. I had to work really hard at not just bursting into tears there in the hall. The other part of me was really mad and wanted to say something along the lines of "Well...let me tell you just EXACTLY what I was up all night doing." Grrrr. Gotta love thoughtless people.
Okay. Personal moment done now. BTW...can I have your e-mail so I can invite you to my blog? :^)
You know, it's sad that people have to point out to others that this is rude. I don't think it's at all rude to say "I'm not pregnant, just fat" to anyone who assumes more than they ought.
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