My dear blog readers, I need some advice; from all three of you. :) We have new neighbors. They have two kids. A son that is 8 and a daughter that is 6. The daughter is really nice and quiet. The son, on the other hand, is...aggressive. They have only come over to play at our house twice to play with my niece and nephew when they were visiting.
The first time when they came over, I found out later that the son was mean to my nephew. (I don't know details of that, I talked to my nephew and he said he's fine that he ignored him - my niece told me he was mean). Agent P has a horse punching bag that his cousin gave him for Christmas. It's a 2 year old punching bag so it's for small kids to punch and kick. At this same visit, the neighbors son was inside my house with the niece and nephew and started to punch and kick the punching bag really hard. It got so violent I had to tell him to stop that the toy was for little kids. A bit later I looked at the bag because it was deflating and there was a hole. He hit/kicked it so hard that he popped a hole in Agent P's toy. (Agent P doesn't know yet, we hide it and I hope to find a patch kit that will work).
The 2nd time he came over to play with my niece and nephew he was giving me attitude about not letting my niece and him play in the front yard. There were no adults to play in the front yard, I explained, so they needed to play in the back. Then my niece started following his example and gave me attitude about it (which she hasn't before). Later he came in to get a cookie (we had treats and Hutch told him he could come in and get one). I received a bouquet from Hutch and Agent P for Mother's day that had a balloon with it. He walks by, pulls down my balloon, and punches it as hard as he can. My friend Jessie happened to be there and yelled at him for it and told him to apologize. He gave a half-hearted sorry.
We have a small airplane swing on our tree in the front yard that is made for little kids. When he came over the first time, he would make a running head start and jump on the swing and bang it around. I had to tell him to stop, that the swing is for little kids. He pushed his sister in the swing and kept trying to push her hard enough to hit the trunk of the tree. (he never did, the swing is far enough away that I don't think it's possible).
What do I do about this kid? He only comes over when my niece and nephews come over which isn't extremely often. Do I wait to see if something happens next time? Do I talk to his parents? Do I just not worry about it? What is your advice.
Like I said above, they are new neighbors. I don't want to alienate or offend them so soon after moving in but I don't like how aggressive their son is to our stuff and property. Not a great example that I want Agent P to see or for my niece and nephew to be around. Right now I'm just thinking of waiting and seeing if it continues the next time my niece and nephews visit. Is that smart? Any advice?
2 comments:
Oh, there is always one.
I have had this happen! More than once! First I just told Jack he couldnt play with that kid. Then the next kid came along, and he was a doozer. I decied that I had to come up with a better plan. (Cuz he lived by us, and was Jacks age) So I made him come in and sit down for a DISCUSSION! The next time he was there, I let him know I was serious, and talked in a serious tone. We explained that we have rules at our house and anyone who brakes the rules will have to leave. We then explained the rules. No hitting, no bulling, etc..... Then I we explained that all the stuff in our home and yard costs money (lots of money for an 8 year old) We work really hard for our stuff, and we take really good care of our stuff. One of the rules is that if your are over at our house you also need to take good care of our things, and you should always be respectful of others property. Make them look you in the eyes and ask them by name if they understand. (Brutus, do you understand?) Make sure they answer. Here is the best part. Always let them know that you will get their Parents involved. So say something like..."Brutus, would you like me go go over all this with your Mom?.
I have told this to a couple of kids that were not following the rules, and they have to leave.
The worst kid in the neighborhood turned nice at our house, but not at church.
MOST IMPORTANT, do what you say. If you tell him he will have to go if the does _______, and he does it. You must make him go. I ws always soooo sweet when he had to go. (Oh Brusus, Im so sorry, but you have broken one of the rules, Sorry, but you have to go home now. Do you want me to call you Mom? in the sweetest sugar voice)
I did say we will see how it goes next time, as he was leaving. Once, as he was going home I called his mother, and said "I dont know what is wrong with Bratty, Im sorry I had to send him home, he was breaking everything he got his hands on in and out of the house.! (Maybe he needs to see a professional)
GOOD LUCK!
(Im not going to review and check the spelling ,, Sorry)
Kellie
Unfortunately, my 8 year old can get pretty rough sometimes so I know exactly what you mean. When he does that, I tell him flat out that it's not ok and if he keeps it up, he can't play with that toy anymore. He should be able to understand you if you tell him he won't be allowed to come over anymore unless he can stop doing those things. If it persists, talk to his parents. Good luck!
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