Have you ever wanted to blog/complain about something/someone and you weren't sure if you should because you didn't want to hurt any feelings? Even though the thing/person doesn't know you have a blog (you think) and wouldn't go out of their way to find it. But there's a part of you who thinks they/it might come across it and you don't want to sound mean or anything? Could I be more vague?
What do you do in those times? Do you just type what you want because it's your blog and this person/thing you want to complain about will be out of your life in a week or so? Or should I not use my blog for a complaining platform? But then it's my blog and I can do what I want. I'm having a huge fight with myself over this. Any opinions?
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While it is true it is your blog and you can do what you want, I think a good rule of thumb is to not put anything on a blog that you would not say to someone face to face. Just my thoughts. So if I have something I want to say on my blog but I am not sure if the person/thing will read it, I send an email to my best friend. It is just how I roll.
Well, that's the problem with blogs. You want your argument/complaint to be heard. Blogs provide that outlet.
However, there's that danger you mentioned in being "heard" -- the wrong person might hear you, and then like that waitress who complained on facebook about cheap customers, you get fired. Well, she did.
I'd stick with Thumper, "If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say anything at all." Or at least put it in your journal... and then burn that page.
Ugh... this is hard one and one I happen to be dealing with in my family right now. One sibling is upset that one blogger sibling hasn't mentioned him on her blog, but the other sibling blogger has, so he's mad that the first one doesn't... it's silly, and frustrating. Blogs are personal - designed to have the info on them that they PERSONALLY want it to have. This is not up for debate... if you want something on a blog, get your own blog, and stop whining about mine. Is that fair enough? I mean really -- ITS A BLOG for crying out loud!
PS... can't wait to see pics of your new arrival! I hope you are excited and feel ready because you will be awesome :)
Let it out!! They cant prove its about them. You can always say your talking about ME!! (I hope its not) Love ya
Kellie
In the wonderful words of Shreck... "Better out than in, I always say"...
I can totally understand the need for getting your frustrations out, and usually if people post something -- i can usually learn from their experience-- like what i would or should do in a situations like that.
Like you've said, It's your blog... and you should feel like you can post whatever you'd like, when you like.
However, be tactful in how you present your frustrations. I like going to peoples blogs to view and read fun upbeat and inspiring things... feeling like the time i spend on their blog was worth my visit--adding to my cup rather than taking away... (if that makes sense?)
:)
Okay...I have thought long and hard about this. I'll try and give you the condensed version of the conclusions I've come up with.
First...I had just a LiveJournal blog that a very few people read. (LOL Come to think of it, no one but my mom reads my blogspot one though so that would make my LJ one more widely read!) Since the people on LJ didn't know my husband I took it as an opportunity to complain about all the little things that bugged me about him. After all, they didn't know him.
Pretty soon I found it wasn't helping me feel any better and, if they ever DID get to know him they'd have a very tainted opinion of him, filled with only the frustrations I've had about him. I decided to contain my frustration posts to a private post(on LJ you can choose your security post by post.) All of a sudden, I found I felt better after writing it and I didn't feel guilty for airing out my dirty laundry, so to speak.
I've found this works when I'm upset with him, my in-laws, any number of situations. I always ended up feeling bad for complaining. A private post takes care of it without having to feel like I'm gossiping. :^)
I agree with Steph, you should not write anything on your blog that you wouldn't say to their face. Yes, it's your blog, but you should consider very carefully who/what will be reading and if who/what would be offended by reading it. Also, are there other people reading your blog that know who/what you will be blogging about? You probably don't want to be the source of some major gossip.
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